I feel sorry for the young girls in their 20s who also date men in their 20s. Neither age group is bright at all. I remember my 20s, granted, I was a sharp cookie, but very dull and didn’t do much. Those born after 1995, God bless you, you all don’t know what you’re doing. Let me tell you what I’ve been witnessing.

I, as a woman, could not date a man who has a hard time keeping a job. If I am dating you, you need to act right at work. Go to work on time, do what is asked of you, respectfully, of course, and leave when they ask you to, unless something serious comes up and you need to leave earlier. I feel like, as a woman, you should learn how to be independent, even in a relationship. Why are you always calling your man to fix every single aspect of your life? You were fine before him, and you will be fine after him. What is going on in your life that you can’t do for yourself? If the window in my car were shattered, I’d call the necessary people to fix it, and then I would tell you about it. If it’s raining or dark out, I appreciate you moving my car or taking me to my car, but I should be able to handle myself. Do some of you women not have female friends?

What is it about having to call your man about every facet of your life? Neither he nor your friends want to hear about your latest troubles every single time. Do you not know how to do for yourself? Do you not journal, meditate, or talk to the Lord or whoever you worship? Do you not know how to keep your mind busy with creative or logical work? Why are you such a damsel in distress who can’t do for herself? Who hurt you? Clearly, your daddy wasn’t a loving man around you, and your mama was your bestie and not your mother. That makes it so that you only want your man to focus on you and not his friends, his family, his hobbies, etc. If I were a man, I couldn’t date a woman like that. You have to learn balance. You have to learn communication. You have to know when to not be manipulating. You have to know self-worth and love.

I really don’t see a lot of young women with this anymore. I need a man so much, I need a man to do everything for me because I can’t do anything on my own with the way the 20-somethings are. God bless these young girls because I don’t want them ruining what we older women have fought so hard to have. Freedom.

Learn to have freedom.